I’m a chronic lover girl but this was written so beautifully it has me considering the possibilities of impermanent attachments. “You weren’t mine to keep but you’re mine to remember” Shakespeare is rolling in his grave wishing he wrote this.
I call these ones - my lovers. Not exes, not situationships or people I’ve “dated”. Just lovers, especially the perfectly cinematic, foreign, burst-of-flame affairs that you’ve so beautifully described. This makes me miss those chapters..
I shed a few tears reading this the same way I shed tears when I read Annie Ernaux, a habit I tend to have after every so called romance, short, long, sweet or bitter-sweet, they all consume me and I love putting gasoline on my sadness. I am in the middle of another one, I think, I'm not even sure... but for this night your piece was my gasoline.
This shifted something in me and I’m gonna obnoxiously recommend it to anyone the second the conversation hits the situationship tower and I have to defend it’s ephemeral beauty/crudeness. I’m so obsessed with your writing style, it’s practically cinematic 🙂↕️💗
CHILLS. DEVOURED THIS. VALERIE YOU AMAZE ME!!!!!!!!!! i want more !!!! "arching my back like I’ve got OnlyFans due in the morning" was a banger line ...
For some reason, I tried to skip this reading because of the situationship stuff in the title—not because it's bad, but because I was scared to dive into the topic. But your text kept coming up as if it had something to say, and it did. Valerie, I don’t know you, but I love you for writing this. 💕🥹
I legitimately kept saying “holy shit this is so good” both in my head and out loud as I read through every paragraph. Sooooo many freaking nuggets. I need to read over and over again to sustain all these epiphanies
You're gonna make me text him!!!! As a yearner and lover girl who can never sit still and longs for freedom, this really made me think about my own experiences, wants, and needs.
Also wtf all that travel? You living my dream life. Beautiful lamentation, I adored it <3
I’m a chronic lover girl but this was written so beautifully it has me considering the possibilities of impermanent attachments. “You weren’t mine to keep but you’re mine to remember” Shakespeare is rolling in his grave wishing he wrote this.
God witty men. always a do I want them or do I want to BE them…slash do I want to EAT them until the last morsel situation
SO TRUE
I call these ones - my lovers. Not exes, not situationships or people I’ve “dated”. Just lovers, especially the perfectly cinematic, foreign, burst-of-flame affairs that you’ve so beautifully described. This makes me miss those chapters..
exactly! lovers! no further elaboration 😌🧘♀️❤️
valerie, this is one of my favorites writing posts on substack. thank you so much. will come back every month
Natalia ❤️😭😭😭 thank you so much
I shed a few tears reading this the same way I shed tears when I read Annie Ernaux, a habit I tend to have after every so called romance, short, long, sweet or bitter-sweet, they all consume me and I love putting gasoline on my sadness. I am in the middle of another one, I think, I'm not even sure... but for this night your piece was my gasoline.
Annie Ernaux is my favorite author and this post was partially inspired by Simple Passion! you and i are so on the same page it’s crazy 🤍🥹 thank you
Ahaha, I thought about a Simple Passion and Getting Lost while reading this :))
Ok, I'm obsessed with this essay. This was SOOOOO good!!!! Girl, thanks
helena!!! merci ❤️❤️
Also Valerie have you done a favorite novels list? I would lovee to hear your recommendations!!
will do!!
This shifted something in me and I’m gonna obnoxiously recommend it to anyone the second the conversation hits the situationship tower and I have to defend it’s ephemeral beauty/crudeness. I’m so obsessed with your writing style, it’s practically cinematic 🙂↕️💗
milah ❤️😭 thank you so so much it means a lot
CINEMATIC!!! Yes!!!
CHILLS. DEVOURED THIS. VALERIE YOU AMAZE ME!!!!!!!!!! i want more !!!! "arching my back like I’ve got OnlyFans due in the morning" was a banger line ...
angelinaaaaaaaa this means everything & more to me
this made me yearrrrrnnn!! beautifully written!!!
For some reason, I tried to skip this reading because of the situationship stuff in the title—not because it's bad, but because I was scared to dive into the topic. But your text kept coming up as if it had something to say, and it did. Valerie, I don’t know you, but I love you for writing this. 💕🥹
Natalia 🤍🤍🤍 thank you so much, i’m glad this post found you
I legitimately kept saying “holy shit this is so good” both in my head and out loud as I read through every paragraph. Sooooo many freaking nuggets. I need to read over and over again to sustain all these epiphanies
thank you val! 😭❤️❤️
You're gonna make me text him!!!! As a yearner and lover girl who can never sit still and longs for freedom, this really made me think about my own experiences, wants, and needs.
Also wtf all that travel? You living my dream life. Beautiful lamentation, I adored it <3
pls don’t text him & THANK YOU 🤍 !!
Girl I did and it didn’t end well, so that’s on me LMAO
feeling giddy and ready to wine and dine someone after reading this 🤭 so excited to read more of your work 🌟
lindsey! thank you so much ❤️ do report back please 🥰
hey stranger i literally love you. this is so good. so good !
thank you so much 🤍🤍
Gorge, I’ve never had a serious relationship or even situationship, I have brief little somethings that are never meant to go anywhere so I loved this
they are often much better than relationships 👼 cheers!